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On becoming First Choice

“Do I deserve to be a second choice?” We all have seen this question before and maybe even you already asked this question while re-affirming your worth.

I then remember one preaching about Ruth. It struck my heart because the pastor regarded her leaning on leftover grains as ‘getting leftover love’. And then he asked, “Have you ever felt like you are picking a leftover love or significance from your parents, friends, or other relationships?” And all I know is that I have been there but I don’t want to feel that way anymore. I am so done.

We love because he first loved us.   -1 John 4:19 ESV

See, even God gave us his FIRST so why are we settling in second place? He also gave his best and all for us. Remember that the greatest public display of affection was done on the cross. This even convinced me that we don’t deserve to be a second choice.

But the question also bounced back to me?

Does God deserve to be the second place in my heart? I choked. That struck me even more. This reminded me then of a commandment from the Lord.

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. -Matthew 6:33 ESV

Seeking the kingdom is seeking the King. Where will the King be anyway? Remembering this, I evaluated myself, did I make the King first in everything I do?

As a single young professional, I want to establish a good long-lasting career so I always make the extra mile to excel. That’s not bad but I saw myself being too busy taking care of my job, making everything else second in my priority lane. I felt so guilty.

The Bible wants to remind us this:

fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.  – Hebrews 12:2

He must increase, but I must decrease. – John 3:30

I am thankful for God’s wonderful reminder of really seeing Him more than seeing myself, making Him my top priority every day. And I realized that I will never be the top priority because He should be that one. And I will always be happy to be the second knowing He is the first choice. And it will be enough that I am God’s first choice over being somebody else’s first choice.

11 thoughts on “On becoming First Choice

  1. Amen! We are definitely in a time when we need to go back to our FIRST LOVE, GOD. As we live out the remainder of our days on earth, let us remember to keep God first place in our lives. Thank you for sharing! God Bless you!

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  2. Priorities determine our thinking, and “as a man thinks, so is he ” Good post!
    My daughter was engaged years ago to a young man who adored her. He was a Christian, but it was clear that his passion was for her, and not very healthy. She broke off the engagement, saying that she did not want to be first in the marriage, she wanted a man who would put God first and her second. I don’t know how many women would do that or even understand it, but I’m sure you do. 😉

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    1. Wow! Thank you for sharing this. She is sure an inspiration to many woman today. 😊 That was a brave move. But understanding how important that God is our top priority, I think, I will do the same. I love this story so much. Glad that you are sharing this. I am learning! ❤️❤️❤️ God bless you.


  3. Wow… A great reminder for all lalo na sa akin this past few weeks… I already sent this to others because I believe its for everyone who loves Jesus and wants to put Him first in everything we do. God richly bless you. Keep it up. ❤️

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